Staying at home for the kids has always been a good choice for many mothers out there, but according to new studies, it seems like spending time with children has no bearing on how they turn out to be in the future.
In fact, it may even prove detrimental to their growth if done the wrong way.
Mothers who stay at home actually have no advantage over moms who work outside home. This is according to the research findings of Melissa Milkie from the University of Toronto.
In her report, she mentioned that charts show no relationship “between the amount of parents’ time and children’s outcome.”
In a Washington Post interview, Milkie said that spending time with kids from when they are 3 to 11 years old will have no bearing on their future. This is against the convention that moms need to always be there for their children as they are growing up.
This seems to clear the guilt for most mothers who feel bad when they leave homes to work. Most mothers feel bad for having to spend less and less time with their kids.
Quality, not quantity, is more important, the research implies.
When time spent with kids is harmful
Another new finding says that staying at home for the kids could even prove to be harmful.
Co-author Kei Nomaguchi said in the same interview that there will be instances when parents’ time spent with the kids can be detrimental.
This is when parents, especially mothers, are stressed, worried, guilty or sleep-deprived.
Children catch the emotions displayed in front of them. This is called emotional contagion. So when a parent is seen frowning or angry, the children also get those emotions, according to an article from Psychology Today.
A Harvard research also mentioned that daughters with moms who work away from home tend to be more successful in the future. They will more likely earn higher income or land in supervisory roles.