A Facebook video of an American mother outing her daughter who was pretending to be much older online went viral, eliciting mixed reactions from people. The video has also brought to the fore the debate as to whether it is correct to humiliate teenagers in such a way.
According to BBC, Val Starks was infuriated after she found out her 13-year-old daughter had an account on Facebook and was pretending to be a 19-year-old. In addition, the daughter was chatting with older men and had uploaded pictures of her in her underwear.
In the ensuing confrontation, which was posted by Starks on Facebook as punishment, she asks her daughter, “You’ve got a Facebook page, and you’re on there with your bra on, right? Is that what you do?”
“Don’t cry now. You wasn’t crying when you was posting pictures on Facebook, was you? In a bra? Some little girl in some lace panties that you know you don’t own. You still wear panties that say Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.”
The video of the confrontation, which runs for five minutes, has received more than 11 million views internationally. Starks tells her daughter in the video that she will be grounded the entire summer and will not have access to either TV or the Internet. The daughter starts crying and pleads her mother not to force her to go to school the next day.
“There’s no reason for her to want that kind of attention,” Starks told ABC News.
Several people praised Starks for the action she took.
Rhonda Snow wrote on Starks’ Facebook page, “We need more Moms like you. Good job taking care of your kid.”
Ifetola Fadeyibi from Nigeria said, “If she’s smart enough to lie & deceive on FB to get attention she should be smart enough to apologise & admit her wrong.”
However, others expressed criticism and reproach.
Carissa Wilson wrote, “Someone please explain to me how humiliating your child or anyone for that matter is a good practice.”
Amy McCready, parenting expert, said, “It is heartbreaking.
“If kids fear that they are going to be publicly humiliated, guess what, they are going to get really good at hiding the truth.”
After the massive reception, Starks posted a second video on Facebook where she expressed that she was a convicted felon and had a difficult time finding a job for herself; something she says she doesn’t want her children to go through.
She said, “I’m an adult who made a bad decision and I had to suffer the consequences, and I’m still suffering the consequences.
“I told her, ‘You’re a kid who made a bad decision and there are consequences to that.'”
Following the video, Starks said that more than 5,000 people have sent friend requests to her. She also hopes that her daughter has learned her lesson, according to CBS Denver.
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